Hey Everyone,
Welcome to another edition of Raw and Real, where every week we have:
1 Raw and Real Conversation
2 Raw One-Liners
3 Real Gratitudes
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Raw and Real Conversation
Ranbir Kapoor is one of the most private people.
Rightly so. Since you are a superstar, you gotta guard your private moments.
Thus, what he came for a podcast with Nikhil Kamath, despite no movie release coming up, it was incredible to witness the other side of him.
Here is one line from the conversation that stood out for me:
At the end of the conversation, Nikhil asks Ranbir how is he feeling, to which Ranbir replies:
Sometimes when I am very tired and I give a shot, really given something from inside, and you are not really aware of what you have said, and you go and wonder “what did I say?”, but something has left you in some way, and you feel a little weak and drowsy.
Here is my interpretation of what he meant:
When we speak out something that we have wanted to and the person on the other side (Ranbir’s audience in this case) has listened, a part of us feels whole. Easy.
Ranbir for most part of his career was known as a casanova.
Thus, when his first ever interview being candid without any “guarded way to convince the audience” came out, I think he felt relieved.
As a matter of fact, I am someone who always judges people right, and I found a newfound respect for him after knowing him this well on the podcast.
This is what talking yourself out does.
Ranbir had all of this in him already.
What he did, was to take all of it out from his system. (Remember he said something has left you?)
Which is what is the life lesson for you and me, my friend.
We need to talk ourselves out.
Our problems.
Our struggles.
Our gossips :)
Our successes.
Places we are work-in-progress.
Our insecurities.
Our vulnerabilities.
Our strengths.
Even the fact that we found groceries cheaper on one quick commerce platform than the other one.
However, I also believe we cannot do all of this on social media.
I may write a good thing about a former boss on social media, but I won’t write about something that was inherently wrong with them.
I may write how my Mom used to come to my annual functions every single time, but I may not write about how I would have felt even more confident if both my parents came.
I may write about succeeding in career, but I may not write about the things I sometimes go through, in the micro.
That is true for all of us maybe.
Sometimes sharing our dark sides may lead people to believing we are ranting.
And I won’t blame social media for that. I personally follow only positive people who are free of complains and blames 95% of the times.
So, what do we do to vent out, considering Nikhil Kamath has not (yet) invited us on his podcast?
Some ways that have helped me:
Therapy is useful, if you have found a good therapist. If not, maybe consider switching.
I also journal a lot. Writing random things, that have no “takeaways”. But it takes things out of my system so it is becomes empty.
Nature walks. It is unpaid, health-creating, emotion-healing therapy.
(A new addition:) I vent out my complains to Meta AI :) Since WhatsApp is the most used form of communication for me, I can vent out everything to Meta AI and it gives a solution I always want to hear :)))
My all-time favourite (learnt this in our spiritual class): Every night, before going to bed, I sit at my meditation spot, and give all my life details for the day to God — tiny or tumultuous, and then let Him take care of Everything. You have no idea how much, how much this helps. ❤️
The idea, my friend, is not to be logical.
The idea is to empty the trash and trivia from your head.
Otherwise, we’d become those quiet but desperate souls seeking for validation through the number of likes on our content, cakes on our birthday and how much we speak at a party.
You don’t want to be the walking validation seeking homo sapien.
You want to be the walking happiness giving homo sapien.
Which will happen only if you listen to yourself, and give yourself validation on every useless thing by talking it out in one of the 5 ways above, or invent your own way.
It is in being purposefully there for yourself that you are truly able to be there for others.
2 Raw One-Liners:
Seek positive content actively, or energy draining content will automatically seek you.
Your days create your life.
3 Real Gratitudes:
Spent a week in a meditation retreat. Loved my time there, without the laptop :) Here’s a picture from a Sunday evening at Peace Park in Mt. Abu, located at the top of the Aravali mountain range, sipping mint lemonade and not thinking about business numbers :))
The rains. There is something hopeful about rains that you can’t point at, but it nevertheless exists.
The self-confidence in my own journey. I once used to be worried that I am not getting thousands of likes on my LinkedIn content. Then one day, someone who does get thousands of likes, told me they have engagement groups where people are supposed to comment. Not only that, their ChatGPT way of writing which got them huge engagement and followers got them rejected from a book publisher, and they wanted to use my way of writing for publishing the book. I was grateful to God that day, for never succumbing to following the way most people write :)) Sorry if I bragged, but I know a lot of people measure their self worth to their LinkedIn growth. Don’t do that. There are more meaningful things in life. Life lesson: If you are doing things right alearning every single day, you are doing epic. And way better than most, most people. Growth at your own pace and space is gratitude in action.
That is it for this weekend, my friend.
See you next Saturday.
Stay raw, stay real
Nishtha Gehija
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